How To Understand Men - Your Way To Making A Happy Marriage
July 23rd, 2009. Published under Marriage. No Comments.
Knowing how to understand men is one important thing that we, women, have to keep in mind in having relationships with our boyfriends or husbands. We sometimes think of not being understood in the relationships - but we often neglect about how to understand men in our lives.
In the end, we find our spouses or boyfriends cheating on us and we never cannot understand why. So early on, let us try to decipher what men really want from women.
Why men are so engrossed with sex
Men’s sexual drive is indeed different from that of a woman. The hormone testosterone in the man is responsible for wanting for sex or their libido. Thus, it is but normal for men to be constantly seeking for sex. If you want to understand men and their sex drives, you might also want to understand that they have different feeling towards sex because of the testosterone pressure they feel in their bodies. In relationships, women are constantly seeking for attention, for love and pampering and men tend to be seeking for sex. Knowing these differences and understanding why these differences exist will truly help you in how to please your partner to make him happy in marriage.
Men need space for themselves
Even women need space too. We all need space in our lives. Being in a relationship or tying the knot with the man you love does not necessarily mean clinging to that man day after day. Sometimes when women are so overwhelmed and in love, we tend to love having our man around and spending time with him always, but we have to understand that sometimes men want to have their quiet time or time with friends. Not because you are married you can always tag along with your man anywhere he goes. In marriage, you can manage this by giving time for him to be by himself and schedule time for you to spend together. Although too much space for both of you can also be bad for the relationship, so make a balance.
Men need time to think
You may probably get upset when you are trying to bring up a concern and your man does not seem to respond to that immediately. Sometimes we think men are not interested in what we say and in dealing with issues that we bring to their attention. To us, it seems like he was thinking about something else, which sometimes can end up in arguments. We have to understand that most often, men want to process their problems and their thoughts to themselves, and they may want to think about it for some time. Oftentimes, men want to talk about it when they are able to come up with a solution and they do not want to talk about it piece by piece.
These are just three ways on how to understand men in your life. There are still a lot of differences between men and women that somehow we need to understand to help us build a good relationship with our man. So the next time we get upset or angry with our spouses, let us take time to put ourselves in their shoes and learn how they think about it and their behavior towards a situation. This way we will be guided on how to understand them and how to make wonderful relationships with them.
Carolyn Anderson is a freelance author and a relationship expert. To learn more about pleasing your man, check out http://www.dp-db.com/the-woman-men-adore. Also check out http://www.dp-db.com/how-to-be-irresistible-to-men, where you find ways to have attract the man of your dreams.